Don’t Be Like Dave…

You may have recently seen a rather disturbing photo floating around the internet (surprising, right?), specifically within the CrossFit community.  The photo was posted by 3 times CrossFit Games competitor Emily Abbott.

If you weren’t aware, making it to The CrossFit Games is not an easy task, let alone qualifying to go three times and placing 8th out of over 30 competitors during one of your trips to determine the “Fittest Man/Woman on Earth”.  It is both a mental and physical task, and takes an unbelievable amount of determination, dedication, and hard work to get there. Not only are these athletes spending hours upon hours in the gym, they are also making sure their diet is near perfection and their bodies are well recovered to do it all over again the next day. Again, this takes discipline and diligence.

So it sounds like for one to make it to these games they must have a pretty good amount of talent, right? Absolutely.  Abbott can clean and jerk 240 pounds, snatch 190 pounds, and perform a multitude of high level gymnastic skills, just to name only a few of her accomplishments. But not only is she crazy talented in the gym – by the looks of her Instagram, she also seems like just a really freaking cool person.

Now let’s talk about Dave. Dave is a dude no one really knows, at all. Dave’s just another guy on one of those dating apps, probably looking to try and find true love, or something.

Dave was lucky enough to get matched with Abbott on said dating app. Instead of realizing he just got matched with a woman who has a million and one amazing qualities, characteristics, and talents – Dave decided to take one look at Abbott’s muscles and decided they scared him a little bit, so he sent her this nice little message…


It’s time we stop being like Dave. It’s time to stop shaming women for being muscular and having an athletic physique because honestly, it’s 2017 and that just doesn’t make sense anymore.

It’s time to stop judging people, women and men, after taking one look at their body. People are too smart, too funny, too hardworking, and too kind, to be judged only by the way they look.

A woman who can lift an insane amount of weight and preform a handful of other high level athletic skills should not be looked down on because she has bigger muscles that might (unfortunately) make some people feel uncomfortable. She should be admired for her hard work and seen as an inspiration for all of the dedication she has put into her sport. Your strength and muscles don’t make you not feminine, they make you badass as hell.

Encourage the women in your life to keep getting stronger. Encourage them to show off their muscles they worked so hard for with pride. Most of all, encourage them to not let people like Dave get them down, but instead let them be motivation for the next time they’re in the gym lifting probably way more than what Dave ever could.

Client Stories

Robby Schroeder: A New Challenge

Robby in his early gymnastic years

Brief personal history and journey towards beginning your CrossFit journey:

I’ve been involved in a lot of alternative sports since I was very young. I started with gymnastics around age three and ran with that for about ten years. I was also on a competitive water ski show team for most of my teenage years into college, and I swam competitively in middle and high school. After all of that, as I hesitantly approached adulthood I found myself missing physical activity and got into running. I eventually set a goal to run the marathon in New York City. I registered and trained in 2011, ‘12, and ‘13 but couldn’t race due to a broken leg, a hurricane, and a death in the family. In 2014 the stars aligned and I finally did it!

What brought you to CrossFit Oshkosh?

About a week after I ran the NYC race, I decided it was time for a break from running. It was really all I did in the realm of exercise for several years, and I was looking for other ways to stay active throughout the winter. I came across some videos online of CrossFit and then discovered there was a box right here in Oshkosh. I convinced two of my friends to try it with me and we signed up for our introductory sessions with Ben.

Your first impression of CrossFit Oshkosh?

Our first session was on a Saturday during open gym, so we got to see a lot of strong people lifting heavy things while we practiced with some PVC. It was a bit intimidating at first, but everyone was so welcoming that the initial shock wore off almost immediately. The eight minute workout we did was humbling to say the least, because I thought I was already pretty fit coming in. I remember being very tired and hungry after, I knew we had found something special.

What has been your biggest hurdle since starting?

I had zero experience with a barbell when I started, I don’t think I had even tried a bench press. Most people come in with a bias toward weight lifting and have a harder time with the gymnastic skills. I am the opposite because I have more experience with gymnastics, so that comes easier for me. The Olympic lifts are intimidating for anyone just starting out, but the coaching and instruction is so great that you never feel alone in your struggles. Hearing a coach cheer for you when you finally get it right feels great, and all the encouragement motivates you to keep going when you feel defeated.

What is your favorite aspect of CrossFit?

CrossFit does what you want it to do (make you strong and fit), and so much more. Starting out I had no idea that it would impact other areas of my life and I would make so many great friends. I absolutely love being able to improve myself in a measurable way every time I step into the box.

What are your current goals in CrossFit?

Clean and Jerk 200lbs (I’m 10 lbs away!), Snatch 150lbs, and hold a freestanding handstand for 30 seconds.

What is something we don’t know about you?

I’ve been an extra in a movie with Johnny Depp, I developed an iPhone app that never saw the light of day, and my favorite food is pizza. I assume that, deep down, everyone’s favorite food is pizza because it’s so good. There is just so much cheese and so many possibilities, who wouldn’t want that?